Maybe getting older isn’t the problem.
Maybe it's the rules we've been handed along the way.
The rules about what women are supposed to do, want, wear, say, stop doing—and eventually, who we're supposed to become.
The strange thing is, we can be smart, independent, accomplished women and still find ourselves asking:
Is this okay?
Is this selfish?
What will people think?
Do I have a good enough reason?
I know because I was 70 when I realized I was still doing it.
That realization became You Don't Need a Reason.
It's not a book about getting older. It's about the invisible rules we carry with us—and what happens when we finally notice them.
Chapter 1 starts with a woman sitting alone at a bar.
That woman is me.
And yes, I had a reason for being there.
I wanted to be.
If this felt familiar,
there's more.
Because the barstool wasn't really the point.
The barstool was where I started noticing something I'd been carrying around for years: the invisible rules.
The rules that tell us what a good woman does.
What a respectable woman wants.
What's appropriate at our age.
When it's selfish to put ourselves first.
When we should stop trying something new.
And once I started noticing them, I couldn't stop.
That's what You Don't Need a Reason is about.
Not getting younger. Not reinventing yourself. Not becoming some wildly different version of yourself.
Just becoming a little less willing to explain why you want the life you want.
And apparently, I'm not the only one who needed that reminder. Women of all ages are finding themselves in these pages.
Learn more about the rules you might still be following without even realizing it.
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